Not Everyone Has to Like You:
A Neurodivergent Guide to Boundaries
What if you’re exhausted, not because you’re ‘broken’, but because you haven’t said no in years?
You’ve been saying yes to everyone else for so long you don’t even know what your own needs look like anymore. This course is how you find them again.
£60 OR 3 MONTLY PAYMENTS OF £20
What is it?
This self-paced online course was built by me and Faye, both Neurodivergent therapists, for people exactly like you. We’ve included the frameworks, scripts and reality checks we use in our actual therapy sessions with high masking neurodivergent clients.
- Tools that work with your brain instead of fighting it.
- Scripts you can actually use.
- Frameworks built for ND patterns
- This is deliberately NOT generic assertiveness advice that assumes everyone’s the same.
I get it!
I’m Becki, a late-diagnosed AuDHD therapist – I know the guilt spiral, the over-explaining and the dread when a message pops up. I also know it doesn’t have to be this way…
No longer needing to ask yourself ‘why do I care so much what people think?’
Say no without a three day hangover from it…
The conversation happens & feels uncomfortable, and then it’s over!
Stop rewriting messages seventeen times
Saying what you actually think without over-thinking every word. Trusting that your needs are worth naming.
Catch burnout before it flattens you
Noticing you’re overwhelmed before you hit shutdown. Stopping the second-guessing and self-gaslighting.
Trust that your needs aren’t ‘too much’
You protect your energy and still connect with the people who matter.
Have actual energy left for the things you love
More in reserve for the things and people you actually want to show up for.
Every single ‘yes’ costs you more than you realise.
Because the same thing happens every single day…
- Your energy keeps going to everyone except you.
- The resentment slowly builds.
- Guilt keeps you stuck.
This isn’t a ‘you’ problem.
You’re not lazy & you’re not dramatic…
Neurodivergent people are conditioned from early on to mask, to adapt, to make everyone else comfortable at the expense of their own needs. That’s the entirely logical result of a brain that learned it had to perform to be accepted.
Understanding that is huge. And having the right tools changes the rest.
The standard advice for burnout is to rest.
But for neurodivergent people who have spent years saying yes to everyone else’s agenda, rest without autonomy over your own choices doesn’t actually restore anything. Real recovery needs you to be able to protect your energy in the first place. That’s what boundaries actually do.
THIS COURSE IS FOR YOU IF
You’re ready for tools that actually work with your brain
- You can’t afford or access regular therapy right now
- You’ve been on a waiting list for months, or longer
- You want to work through things at your own pace, no deadlines or pressure
- You need practical tools to use immediately
- You relate to high-masking and people-pleasing patterns, regardless of whether you have a formal diagnosis
This course contains the frameworks, exercises, and tools we use in our actual therapy practice with high-masking neurodivergent clients
8 sessions worth of content
Lifetime access (not just fifty minutes once a week)
revisit materials whenever you need them
Work at your own pace
What Will you get from a neurodivergent boundaries course?
Finally Understanding Why This Is So Hard For You
Stop blaming yourself. Discover why boundaries feel terrifying when you’re neurodivergent – from how you were raised to say yes, to rejection sensitivity that makes every ‘no’ feel like the end of the world, to sensory overload you’ve been pushing through for years. Includes guided exercises to understand YOUR specific patterns.
The ability to say no without spiralling
Actual scripts you can use word-for-word at work, with family and friends, to help when your brain is screaming ‘they’re gonna hate me!’.
You’ll stop relying on over-explaining, saying yes then resenting it, lying awake at 3am wondering if you’ve ruined everything. Learn a simple neurodivergent friendly framework that feels less scary than just ‘be more assertive.’
Catching yourself before you burn out
Learn to recognise when you’re ignoring your own needs BEFORE you hit complete shutdown. Spot the early signs – the resentment building, the guilt creeping in, the exhaustion you’re pretending isn’t there. Includes tools to track what’s draining you so you can actually do something about it.
Boundaries that actually last
Most boundary courses tell you what to do, then leave you alone. This gives you a maintenance plan for when life gets messy, you slip back into old patterns, or someone pushes back. Regular check-ins, troubleshooting for common problems, and flexible pacing that works with your brain (not against it).
Protecting your sensory needs without feeling high maintenance
Finally have language for the lighting that makes your head hurt, the noise that scrambles your brain, the textures you can’t stand. Learn how to communicate sensory boundaries without feeling like you’re being difficult or dramatic. Create your own toolkit of strategies that actually help.Protecting Your Sensory Needs Without Feeling High-Maintenance
Bonus
Emergency scripts for when you’re put on the spot, printable handouts you can reference anytime, and reflection prompts created by therapists (us!) to keep you on track.
What’s inside: Five modules for neurodivergent brains…
01
Understanding your needs
Why boundaries feel impossible for ND brains (and what yours actually look like)
02
spotting the signs
Catching the signs before burnout hits. Things like resentment, guilt or the exhaustion you might be pretending isn’t there
03
Communicate without guilt
Scripts to say no without over-explaining, plus communication frameworks that don’t assume you’re the same as everyone else
04
boundaries in the wild
Boundaries in relationships and at work – situation-specific scripts and troubleshooting
05
keeping it sustainable
Keeping it sustainable when life gets messy and old patterns creep back
You also get printable worksheets, emergency scripts for when you’re put on the spot, energy audits, and reflection prompts. Lifetime access and No deadlines!
Want more support? Add email coaching check-ins or book a 1-1 session (WhatsApp, phone, or Zoom available).
Your energy is precious. Start treating it that way
Costs less than the price of a single therapy session, for 8 sessions’ worth of tools you can use forever.
£60
or pay in just 3 monthly payments of £20
Why this Boundaries course is different…
- Created BY neurodivergent therapists FOR neurodivergent people
- Addresses root causes (not just ‘make eye contact & be assertive)
- Designed for Neurodivergent executive function based on our lived experiences (regular prompts, flexible structure, built in check-ins & goal setting)
- Therapist-created exercises and techniques from actual evidence based interventions but with Neurodivergence in mind
- Self-paced (no deadlines, no pressure)
- Optional add-ons for extra support
FAQs
‘Is this course actually for me if I’m not officially diagnosed neurodivergent?’
Yes. This course is for anyone who relates to high-masking, people-pleasing patterns and struggles with boundaries. If you recognise yourself in the descriptions – the over-explaining, the guilt, the fear of rejection, – you’ll benefit from this boundary course regardless of diagnosis status.
‘I’ve tried setting boundaries before and it didn’t work. How is this different?’
Most boundary advice assumes you just need to ‘be more assertive’ – stand up straight, make eye contact, speak confidently. But this assumes that there’s a version of ‘normal’ everyone should strive for. With lived experience of Neurodivergence, we know this is BS – we’re not trying to make you ‘normal.’ We value the beauty of Neurodiversity instead, everyone is difficult, and advice should account for this. You don’t need to force eye contact or master small talk. You might need virtual message scripts instead of face-to-face conversations, or boundaries with yourself before you can set them with others.
We also address the real reasons boundaries feel dangerous: childhood conditioning, rejection sensitivity, nervous system responses, years of masking, and the genuine misunderstanding and judgement ND people face. Tools that work WITH your brain, not against it.
‘What format is the course? Will I need to attend live sessions?’
It’s a self-paced course with 5 modules comprising of different lessons with downloadable worksheets and resources. No live sessions & no deadlines (🥳). You can work through it at your own speed, take breaks when you need them, and revisit sections whenever you want. Perfect for Neurodivergent brains that need flexibility.
‘How long will it take to complete?’
That’s entirely up to you. Some people work through it in a weekend, others spread it over weeks. I’ve designed it with regular check-in points and energy breaks because I know executive function can be unpredictable. There’s no ‘right’ pace – you do you ✌️.
‘What if I buy it and realise I’m not ready to set boundaries yet?’
The course meets you where you are. The first modules focus on understanding why boundaries feel hard and identifying what your boundaries even are. You don’t have to jump straight into difficult conversations. Awareness is the first step, and that alone is valuable.
‘I’m worried about damaging my relationships with boundaries. Will this course help with that?’
Absolutely. One entire module is dedicated to setting boundaries in relationships whilst maintaining connection. We cover how to have these conversations compassionately, what to do if someone reacts badly, and how to recognise when a relationship isn’t safe for boundaries (which is important information to have).
‘Can I really learn how to set boundaries from an online course? Don’t I need therapy?’
This course complements therapy beautifully, but it’s not a replacement for it. Think of it as psychoeducation and practical tools you can implement yourself. Attending therapy alongside this means you have something you can reference and work through at your own pace.
How much is it?
The course is currently discounted at £60 (original price £100) for the same amount of learning you would get in at least 8 1-1 therapy sessions. We also have Klarna purchase available to pay in 3 monthly payments of just £20 if preferred.
‘What’s included for £60?’
The complete course (5 modules covering why boundaries are hard, identifying your needs, setting boundaries with yourself, and real-life boundary scripts), plus downloadable worksheets, energy audits, boundary script templates, conversation frameworks, and practical exercises throughout. Everything you need to start setting boundaries that actually stick.
‘What if I have questions whilst working through the course?’
Whilst the course is self-paced and doesn’t include one-on-one support, everything is explained clearly with examples and we’ve anticipated the common questions and concerns throughout.
For personalised guidance, you can add email coaching support for £35 – this includes check-ins and personalised feedback on your specific situations as you work through the modules.
You can also book 1-1 sessions with me (WhatsApp £60 / Telephone £70 / Zoom £80) if you want dedicated time to work through a particular boundary challenge or practise difficult conversations.